The Dulwichmum blog has moved. You can catch up with her at Dulwichmum

If you have kindly linked to this site in the past, I would appreciate it if you could check your link and change to

Wednesday, 16 May 2007

Simple Pleasures

There really is nothing more satisfying to me, than to see James playing with the munchkins. I love to observe the pleasure he takes in reading them a story, or even just lounging on the sofa with sweet Freya perched on his head, and darling Max lying across his knee, all three engrossed in an a volume of Charlie and Lola.

I can huff and puff that James hasn't noticed I have had my eyelashes permed, or lightened my hair a shade, but he loves my babies and notices every single simple thing they do, and it makes me feel super secure and safe.

My next door neighbours married just last year. They are both in their forties and are partners in the same GP practice. Antonia has no children, but Crispin has little twin girls from his first marriage. The girls are six years old and come to stay every second weekend. Antonia carries on so if the girls take up too much of their fathers time and affection, it really makes me cringe.

I feel so very sorry for these sweet innocent little children. It really is shameful and should not be this way. I would hate to think that if James and I for some reason ever divorced, a new woman would begrudge the time my children spend with their papa and could actually compete with my tots for his time. I so loved my daddy, he was just the best part of my childhood.

I happily sacrifice aspects of my own fulfillment in order to maintain stability in my children's young lives. I enjoy the simple pleasure of watching as the full focus of James' attention rests on our two children...

Actually, I do not have the inclination or physical stamina to let the little darlings perch on my head, and I find reading with the poppets dreadfully tiresome, those endless theatrical voices are such a bore. Praise the Lord for super daddies!

Have you seen the latest Boodle and Dunthorne catalogue? Don't you just love the Raindance rings?


Drunk Mummy said...

Looking at several people I know, it isn't until a couple actually divorce that the father starts to get involved with the kids for the first time. Where I live, it seems that there are hundreds of newly-single mums who suddenly find themselves with every second weekend free. They are taking mini-breaks, going clubbing and generally having a blast, while their ex gets to spend the weekend with the kids.
I suspect Antonia is more jealous of Crispin's ex-wife than his kids!

Stay at home dad said...

Quite so DMs. I had two of them on my head yesterday, 20 pages of nursery ryhmes to go and felt in sore need of a super somebody...


david santos said...

Please, it puts fhoto of Madeleine in your Bloggue

Missing Madeleine!
Madeleine, MeCann was abduted from Praia da Luz, Portugal on 03/03/07.

If you have any information, please contact Crimestoppers on
0800 555 111

Please Help

debio said...

'taking on' someone else's children is not something I would want.
my husband has done just that and has metamorphosed from a 'child-indifferent' person to bordering on the 'child-obsessional'. I know I am lucky and count my blessings when I see them together every day.

Scruffy Mummy said...

A father of a friend of mine re-married after her mother had died. The stepmother was super jeaulous of the kids (who were in their late teenies and 20's) and banned them from the house they grew up in for years!! She also managed to get my friends dad to buy several properties with his money in his name. Now, he is quite bankrupt while she has all these properties - bought with his money. So when he dies, his children will get nothing and one of his kids has a disability as well. It's shocking that he did nothing to secure his kids financial futures. Although they have been quite forgiving and now have a good relationship with him now they are in their 40's.

dulwichmum said...

Darling Drunk Mummy,

Clearly I had the wrong end of the stick! I shall consider calling a lawyer forthwith!

Sweet SAHD,

It really is the best place for a child!I think you sound like a super daddy...

Right on David Santos...

Oh Debio, he does rather sound quite the darling. What a lovely man you have married!

Lovely Scruffy Mummy,

You know, the childhood fairy tales of evil step mothers should serve as a warning to us all!

Omega Mum said...

Having an over-observant husband must be a nightmare as you grow older. I don't know about you, but I want any menopausal beard growth to go unremarked by anyone except me.

AntiScam said...

Dear darling Dulwichmum,

Please do not stay in a loveless marriage. There is a whole world out there waiting to be enjoyed (enjoy you).

dulwichmum said...

Dear Omega Mum,

I am sure I would notice if James were to grow a beard!

Oh Antiscam!

You really are quite the scamp! Enjoy me... as if anyone would be interested!